There’s evidence that fathers have a unique impact on the lives of their children. Fatherhood is essential, and our today’s society seems to have placed a value on their roles. That being said, a story hinged on a father-daughter relationship is making rounds on the internet, having landed on the Subreddit r/AITA.
With the username @herweddingday_, a dad took to the group to ask if he was a**hole for refusing to walk his daughter down the aisle. The dad explained that he hadn’t spoken with his daughter in years after discovering that she wasn’t his biological daughter and that his wife had cheated on him years ago with a friend.
The incident resulted in a separation, and from there on, his daughter pulled away from him. At a point, she lived with her biological father, which of course, left @herweddingday_ heartbroken and depressed. Not there’s a TWIST as the dad claimed the same daughter reached out to him after several years asking if he could walk her down the aisle. Well, he admitted to refusing the request and has now turned to the internet for advice.
A Dad Refused To Walk His Daughter Down The Aisle After She Pulled Way Over Finding Out He’s Not Her Biological Dad.
Here’s The Full Story:
“My daughter (26F) and I haven’t spoken in years.
When she was 15, we found she wasn’t my biological daughter, and my wife cheated on me years ago with a ‘friend.’ As it turns out, this so-called was suddenly interested in playing dad. My wife and I divorced, my daughter learned the truth, and I told her I still loved her no matter what.”
“Of course, she was interested now in getting to know her biological father, and while it hurt, I tried to accept that. She started pulling away from me after that. Even when trying to still do things together as a family, she was no longer interested. The last straw was when she was 20 and living at my house.”
“We were arguing because she’d dropped from her college course, hasn’t done anything for three months, and was mad because I told her she either needed to go to school or work if she wanted to say here for free. She told me I’m not her real dad, so stop pretending like I am, and she’ll go stay with her real father.”
“That broke me, honestly. But I told her if that’s how she feels, then there’s nothing left to say between us. And she did move out to go live with him. I was depressed for a very long time, drank so much. My son (24M) was my only reason to keep moving forward. For the first couple of years, I reached out to my daughter. She wanted no contact; I learned to accept that and move on.”
The Father-Daughter Had A Complicated Relationship; A Result Of Heated Arguments (not the actual image).
“It helped me find more peace in my life. My son stopped talking to her for a while over this and was angry with her. They still chat sometimes, which doesn’t bother me at all. Through him, I learned her biological father died in October 2019. Also, that she’s engaged, she reached out to me first that she knows that “we haven’t talked in a while.” But wants to ask me if I’d be willing to walk her down the aisle.”
“After a pretty long message about how much she hurt me in the past with actions, I told her NO. She didn’t want me to be her father anymore, so I learned to no longer view her as my daughter. This turned into a fight between us because, according to her, it’s not her fault she wanted to know her real dad. And I agreed with her it’s not, but what was her fault was how she treated me ever since.”
“In my mind, I know if he hadn’t passed, we wouldn’t even be speaking right now. It ended with telling her I hope she enjoys her wedding, but I want no part of it or her life. My son’s told me she’s ranting to my family that I’m ruining her day, and she thoughts parents are supposed to love their kids unconditionally.”
Now, The Dad Is Concerned About The Hurtful Remarks Coming From His Family (not the actual image).
“My brothers seem to think now that I am being a**hole, and this is my chance to be in her life again. But I have no interest in that. It still seems everyone has a strong opinion that I’m making it difficult for my daughter to have the wedding she wants when it would mean a lot to her. My son is on my side, but the comments are still wearing me down, and just for the sake of my sanity, am I being an as***le?”
People Has Since Taken To The Comments, And As Seen, Mixed Reactions Came In Full Display.